Sleep training is going okay – last night was night 6. S is sleeping from around 6-6:30PM to around 3-3:30AM, which is awesome. Then he goes back down for another hour or two once he falls back to sleep. Much to DW’s chagrin, however, I am feeling really conflicted about it. It takes anywhere from 20-55 minutes to get baby to sleep at night, and he’s bawling like crazy during that time. It doesn’t seem to help him at all that one of us is there in the room with him (following the Sleep Lady technique, which we thought was supposed to be more gentle than Ferber or Weissbluth). I never wanted to do CIO, but I feel like that is exactly what we’re doing. He has also been crying for 20-35 minutes at his 3-3:30AM wake up, but last night I nursed him and put him back in the crib at that wake up and he played in his crib for about 30 minutes and then fussed (not really crying) for about 5-10 minutes and went back to sleep until the $%*&^! cats woke us all up at 6:15AM (they were used to baby being up at 4:30 or 5:00AM and getting fed at that time). If I could get him to do that at bedtime and all wake times, I’d be okay with it. But I feel like an abusive mother listening to him cry (and I mean cry) for 20+ minutes every night. DW told me last night that she can’t go back to what we were doing (co-sleeping, up many times in the night) – it was affecting her ability to parent during the day. I have also noticed that S is much less fussy during the day, I assume because he’s getting a good night’s rest. I’m just so conflicted. I guess we’ll continue for now, but if he backslides, I’m just not sure I can do this again. I wish S was a baby who just went to sleep when he’s tired. He’s a total sleep fighter.
The anti-CIO stuff has me thinking, though. Like when baby had to learn to take a bottle, he cried and cried several times a day for several weeks until he accepted it. But I had to work, so he had to learn. If he were going to day care, I’m sure there would be lots of tears in the beginning for that as well. Is CIO at bedtime really any worse than CIO in these other situations? Not judging or anything, I was just sincerely wondering about it.
In other baby news, we are having S’s 6 month photos taken on Friday (a few days shy of 7 months, but who’s counting?). I’m excited to get some professional shots. We also plan to be in a few as we have almost no photos of the 3 of us together. It’s Mama and S, Mommy and S, or just S in our pics.
We’re also gearing up for our Comic-Con trip next week. Our plan is to bring the stroller to get from our car to the convention center, check the stroller at the CC, and use the Ergo in the hall. This is what we’ll do Thursday morning when the con first opens. I predict he’ll do well for a couple of hours, and then we’ll have to take him out of there. I am planning to spend most of my time at the pool or beach (close to the condo we’re staying at) with S and let Mommy enjoy her con. I hope baby can tolerate it a little bit as I would like to go in a few times if possible, but if he can’t, that’s okay, too. In the not-too-distant future, he will love going! Can’t wait!