Well, friends, I’m happy to report that the last two nights have gone off without a hitch. No nightime wakings and both kids have slept until almost 7 both mornings. This truly is a miracle as my oldest typically wakes ~5:30AM most of the time. Our days have been going well, too. I almost feel silly now making my mom come help, but there is that pesky work thing 🙂 I took today and tomorrow off, but really should get back at it asap.
School was closed today due to snow/ice and I’m not even sweating it. We’ve decided to stay in PJs, watch movies, play games, and eat snacky things all day long. Sounds like a plan to me!
I got an invoice for storing my remaining 8 or so embryos for the year. Of course, it brought up the issue of a second child. We are both feeling very torn on the issue currently. We can’t even imagine having another baby on top of our current baby. It is already so hard, and I wouldn’t say S is a difficult baby. He seems pretty normal (no reflux, colic, or anything like that). Maybe it’s just not in the cards for us. It makes me kind of sad for S, but I don’t think that is necessarily the best reason to have another baby. Anyway, we paid for storage through February as we’re not quite ready to call it. I guess we’ll see where we are when the next invoice arrives.
It seems like most of my bloggy friends are planning to have a second child, which makes me wonder what our deal is that we feel so overwhelmed with one. Maybe because we’re older? I don’t know. Is there anyone out there with a singleton and plan to stay that way?
S is teething like crazy. It looks like he has one coming in on the bottom, which is a first for him (having only one tooth coming in). He seems to have trouble with those lowers and not so much with the uppers.
I’m sure I’m boring the hell out of all of you with this, but sleep continues to be problematic. He is pretty much in our bed all night at this point, which works for him but not so great for us. He starts in his bed around 6PM and usually wakes at least once before we go to bed around 9:30/10:00PM. He wakes up then and nurses and I try to get him back in his crib at that point, but I often fail or fall asleep before trying. We are living in fear of the daylight savings time change coming up as he is already going to sleep early and waking early 5:00/5:30AM. Any ideas on this, or about shifting bedtime out in general?
I didn’t get in to see my OB last Friday re: post-partum depression as he had an emergency. Hoping to get in sometime this week.
Sleep training is going okay – last night was night 6. S is sleeping from around 6-6:30PM to around 3-3:30AM, which is awesome. Then he goes back down for another hour or two once he falls back to sleep. Much to DW’s chagrin, however, I am feeling really conflicted about it. It takes anywhere from 20-55 minutes to get baby to sleep at night, and he’s bawling like crazy during that time. It doesn’t seem to help him at all that one of us is there in the room with him (following the Sleep Lady technique, which we thought was supposed to be more gentle than Ferber or Weissbluth). I never wanted to do CIO, but I feel like that is exactly what we’re doing. He has also been crying for 20-35 minutes at his 3-3:30AM wake up, but last night I nursed him and put him back in the crib at that wake up and he played in his crib for about 30 minutes and then fussed (not really crying) for about 5-10 minutes and went back to sleep until the $%*&^! cats woke us all up at 6:15AM (they were used to baby being up at 4:30 or 5:00AM and getting fed at that time). If I could get him to do that at bedtime and all wake times, I’d be okay with it. But I feel like an abusive mother listening to him cry (and I mean cry) for 20+ minutes every night. DW told me last night that she can’t go back to what we were doing (co-sleeping, up many times in the night) – it was affecting her ability to parent during the day. I have also noticed that S is much less fussy during the day, I assume because he’s getting a good night’s rest. I’m just so conflicted. I guess we’ll continue for now, but if he backslides, I’m just not sure I can do this again. I wish S was a baby who just went to sleep when he’s tired. He’s a total sleep fighter.
The anti-CIO stuff has me thinking, though. Like when baby had to learn to take a bottle, he cried and cried several times a day for several weeks until he accepted it. But I had to work, so he had to learn. If he were going to day care, I’m sure there would be lots of tears in the beginning for that as well. Is CIO at bedtime really any worse than CIO in these other situations? Not judging or anything, I was just sincerely wondering about it.
In other baby news, we are having S’s 6 month photos taken on Friday (a few days shy of 7 months, but who’s counting?). I’m excited to get some professional shots. We also plan to be in a few as we have almost no photos of the 3 of us together. It’s Mama and S, Mommy and S, or just S in our pics.
We’re also gearing up for our Comic-Con trip next week. Our plan is to bring the stroller to get from our car to the convention center, check the stroller at the CC, and use the Ergo in the hall. This is what we’ll do Thursday morning when the con first opens. I predict he’ll do well for a couple of hours, and then we’ll have to take him out of there. I am planning to spend most of my time at the pool or beach (close to the condo we’re staying at) with S and let Mommy enjoy her con. I hope baby can tolerate it a little bit as I would like to go in a few times if possible, but if he can’t, that’s okay, too. In the not-too-distant future, he will love going! Can’t wait!
Earlier in the week, I think we were experiencing the old 4 month sleep regression, but thankfully last night it broke. Our sleep cycle used to be asleep by 7:30 or 8, up once around 4AM to nurse, and up for the day around 7 or 8. Monday night baby was down around 7:30 and we were up at 1, 3, 5, and 7. Tuesday night baby was down around 7 and we were up at 12:30, 2:30, 4:30, 7. Whoa is me. But last night, we were back to baby asleep at 7:30, up at 4:30 to nurse, and up for the day at 7. Whew. I think we are going to stop swaddling this weekend as that may have also been a factor. Every time I get up with the baby in the night, he is out of his swaddle. Last night, we got in bed around 10 and baby was asleep but already out of the swaddle. I was worried that he’d wake up quickly but he went until 4:30! Any of you still swaddling or have any tips for weaning off the swaddle?
We go tomorrow for baby’s 4 month checkup. I think he gets some vaccinations, so I’m expecting a rough afternoon like the last time. Poor little guy. He has a few things I want the ped to check, including a little sore patch on the back of his head that just won’t heal (because he lays on it all night and a lot of the day), his tear duct/eyelid issue, and his circumcision area (looks strange to me, but what do I know). I really struggled toward the end of my pregnancy with the decision to circ, so I hope that there is no problem with the way it’s healing up or I’ll feel even more guilty than I sometimes already do.
Tomorrow is also Mommy’s (DW’s) last day of work! She quit several weeks early as she was just over it, so now we have a month all together before I start back to work. Yay! We will need it to get this baby on the bottle and figure out what their routine will be since the breastfeeder will be at work. It will be so much better with me working rather than DW as my workplace is so flexible. She was gone for 10 hours a day, Mon-Fri. I will be working from home Wed and Fri, and will probably be gone for 6-7 hours the 3 days I go into the office. I am so fortunate to have my work situation. I hope it lasts until S starts pre-school so he can dodge daycare.
Even though we aren’t making a decision on whether to have another baby until S is 1 (so, December of this year), I find myself thinking about it often. I go back and forth on it. I think my main pro is that it would be nice for S to have a sibling, especially since his Mamas are older. He’d have family after we’re gone, which hopefully won’t be for a good long time! My main con is money. I keep thinking about how we love to travel and do things and how much costlier it would be with 4 people rather than 3. I’m hoping it will all become clear by December. To state the obvious, life decisions are hard!
At 3.5 months, here are some milestones S has achieved:
* Babbling (like crazy – kid loves to talk!)
* Grabbing legs, toys
* Focusing on objects (including books -yay!)
* Holding head up fairly steadily (does good tummy time head lifting at this point)
He has yet to:
* Roll over (well, he did roll from tummy to back several times when he was a few weeks old, but not since then)
* Laugh/giggle (though he seems on the verge)
As long as there’s no physical issue, I’m happy to let my guy do things at his own pace. He is engaged with us and the world and doing great!
My most favorite thing is when he wakes up in the morning and from his naps and he sees me, he breaks out in the biggest grin. So sweet! I also (shockingly) really love breastfeeding. I was not looking forward to breastfeeding at all, thought it would be weird, painful, etc., etc. But the pure joy he has for BFing and the sweet bonding time has made it all worthwhile. Not at all weird and worth the (extreme) effort we had to put in initially. Sometimes I don’t know what I’d do if I weren’t breastfeeding as it is the go to activity when nothing else will satisfy him. It always calms him down, which makes me feel like a good Mama.
I’m a little late on this one, but figured I’d weigh in anyway. Except for #1, these are not really in any kind of order, even though they are numbered 🙂
Beats the Boppy by a mile. This will be my go-to shower gift for moms-to-be who plan to breastfeed as it made life so much easier for me in the beginning. I still use it, but it’s not as critical as it was in the early days.
Can’t see them at all through your clothes. Love them.
I wish I’d had this from the beginning. Baby sleeps in it for a long time and it’s so nice to have both hands again!
4) One piece oufits that snap/zip all the way up (like this)
So much easier than those over-the-head kind – baby appreciates them so much.
5) California Baby products
After hearing that Johnson & Johnson No More Tears has formaldehyde that numbs baby’s eyes, we opted for the more pricey California Baby Tea Tree & Lavendar shampoo>
, which is also tear-free but all natural. It smells great and has helped with cradle cap. The Calendula cream
is also great – clears up little skin irritations and again with that wonderful aroma. We’ll be trying the sunscreen this summer and I’m looking forward to their baby bubble bath, too!
We got our Graco car seat from my cousin who had her twin boys last year, and put the stroller base on our registry. It is so convenient and you don’t have to wake the baby after a stroll or car ride!
This pump is working out great for me. Will be essential when I return to work.
We started out with the Halo Sleep Sack with Swaddle
, then moved on to the SwaddleMe
. Both have worked well in keeping our little guy snug and swaddled most of the night (I say most because he does manage to get out of them on occasion). These worked better for us than a regular blanket swaddle since he is a strong dude.
There is probably a cheaper version of this, but we got two of them from cousin (see above re: cousin’s twin boys). We have one in the car seat and it works really well for keeping baby’s head from lolling all about. The other one travels around from swing, to Pack n Play, etc. to keep his head from lying flat (I’m paranoid about needing the helmet). Love this product.
10) A toy that plays music – we have this one
This is a life-saver when I need a few minutes to get something done. I even bring it into the bathroom and put it next to the bouncy seat when I shower. S loves looking at the glowing tummy and the music keeps him quiet for about 10-15 minutes. We need to get more toys like this one.