Since I rarely blog anymore and I like to use my blog to travel back in time and reminisce, I thought I’d do a 2015 timeline entry. 2015 was a pretty huge year for us.
- Packed up all of our stuff and moved our family (including our 3 cats) from Los Angeles, CA, to Raleigh, NC (1/22)
- Found our home (2/8)
We went from 1300 sq feet, 2 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms to 2600 sq feet, 3 (incredibly large) bedrooms, 3 bathrooms and a YARD!
- Experienced our first NC snow – first time either boy had seen snow (2/24)
- Monkey started at a new preschool…
…which was a disaster.
- Monkey quit the new preschool
- First Easter with cousins in SC (4/5)
- Monkey loses first tooth (4/10)
- Moved into new house (4/26)
- The MM turned 2 (4/29)
It was a quiet affair at home with balloons, gifts and cake. It was enough of a feat to get the sunroom orderly enough to put his new train table there.
- The MM’s first hospital procedure/got front teeth capped (5/15)I didn’t blog or FB about this because I was actually rather embarrassed. The MM had some discoloration on his top 4 front teeth, so I took him in to the dentist for the first time in April. Turned out that it was decay (!!) and they recommended capping them. Since he was so young, it needed to be done under anesthesia (!!) in a local hospital (!!!!). I was freaked out about it, of course, so I got a second opinion, and, yes, this was the recommended course of action. I called every local ped dentist to see if there was anyone who could do this in their office and nope.I took him in super early in the AM after an overnight fast. They put us in a room to wait. They wait until they are in the OR to give gas to get them out quickly and then do IV, procedure. Then one of the worst things ever – they took him screaming and crying from my arms to the OR. It. Was. Awful. I waited for an excruciating 1.5 hours and then they brought me back to hold him as he came to. Again, just awful. He was so upset and disoriented. I nursed him, took him home, and put him to bed. He slept for a few hours (with constant Mama checks) and then woke up and was absolutely fine. And that was that. The capped teeth will fall out as normal when his permanent teeth start coming in.The dentist blamed my nursing him overnight as the cause of the decay, which is why I felt embarrassed and ashamed. I’ve read that breastmilk doesn’t pool in the mouth and lead to this problem like formula from a bottle overnight does. Who knows. I just know that I did what felt right for him and for me and that’s that.
- Our first ER visit: The MM gets stitches (7/9)How we made it 5 years without an ER visit is beyond me. This one happened because Monkey was chasing the MM through the house and of course the MM fell right on the edge of the fireplace (Note: We’ve since purchased guards for the edge.) DW tried cleaning him up but we quickly saw that his poor lip was split. I first took him to Urgent Care as they said they do stitches. On arrival, however, they said since it was on the face, they wanted us to go to the ER.The MM was a freaking rock star. First they applied topical numbing cream with a cotton ball taped to his lip. Then they did some sort of nose spray that makes you very woozy and out of it. Lastly they sewed up his lip. Dude didn’t even cry during the stitches and barely did for the other stuff.He did great! And now he has a small bad ass scar on his upper lip. Dude has been through it this year.
- Monkey started Kindergarten (7/7)
- Trip to Wilmington (8/10)
First time to NC beach for any of us. Granny came along (my mom). We went to the beach (but only for one day as the kids really wanted to be in the pool at the hotel), did a lot of swimming in the pool, visited the USS NC Battleship and NC Aquarium, and Mama and Mommy went out for dinner did the Ghost Tour.
- Baseball for Monkey!
This was actually t-ball, but ended up being coaches pitching. Monkey was much more focused and into it than he ever has been and did well. We found a great league nearby and loved Monkey’s coach (a former NY Yankees player!). We found that out when the team was invited to coaches’ house for a post-season wrap up. Dude lives in a freaking $2 milion dollar home! Cray. We just signed up for Spring ball and are really hopeful we are on his team again (his son is the same age as Monkey).
- Color Run (10/3)
Monkey LOVES to run and this seemed like something he’d enjoy. Did he ever! The whole family went but only Monkey and I did the actual run (let’s be real, Mama mostly walked). We got covered head to toe in colored powder, much to Monkey’s delight. Afterwards, they had a big dance party where they handed out more color packs and everyone got even more covered in color. On our walk to the car, there was a powder station that a bunch of kids were playing at (purple powder EVERYWHERE), so we stopped and let the kids go to town. You guys, they were seriously covered in purple powder. They loved it. Monkey still asks when we can do it again. LOL.
- NC State Fair (10/17)
Meh, we are not really fair fans, but the fairgrounds are super close and everyone said you must experience it. It was hot, parking was hell, there was disgusting fair food, there were smelly buildings full of farm animals, and overpriced tickets to ride crappy rides. Kids loved it – Mamas, not so much. Mommy was like, “We aren’t doing that again.” I was like, “You know you’re dreaming, right? We have kids!” LOL!
- Mama starts new job (at same company)
- First Halloween in new house
In LA we lived in a security condo building so we never got trick-or-treaters. Monkey thoroughly enjoyed handing out candy. In fact, he cut his own TOTing short so that he could go home and hand out candy. DW also really did up the house for Halloween. Orange lights around posts on front porch, skeleton lights along front walkway, tombstones and flashing lights in yard, and spooky sounds via a speaker in the front window. Pretty impressive 🙂
- Mommy’s band plays first gig
- Mama has work trip to LA – first time away from the MM overnight (11/17-11/19)
Highlights included staying at The Standard hotel, going to The Broad museum, partying on my last night there with my old gay work boyfriend (we did drinks at the rooftop bar at The Standard, hit Clifton’s for dinner, and walked around downtown LA, which is really lovely these days). Bonus? I was not at all homesick for LA – I was totally ready to come home to NC 🙂
- Wean the MM (11/17)
- First Thanksgiving with my family in SC
- Monkey turned 6 (12/21)
No party or huge activity planned this year, which ended up making Monkey sad. We hit up the local kid’s museum, went out for brunch and went to the trampoline place. Then home for gifts, dinner and cake. Next year we’ll do a party at our place.
- First Christmas in new house
- Mommy visited Grandma in LA (12/26-12/29)
- Mama and boys visited family in SC (12/26-12/28)
Highlights include exchanging gifts with family, visiting the Riverbanks Zoo with cousins, and seeing The Good Dinosaur.
So far, we’ve had a pretty busy January 2016 as well!
- The MM saw his first movie in the theater – Hotel Transylvania 2 (1/3)
We have a $2 theater near our house so we thought we’d try it. He did great and we’ve already been back to see The Peanuts movie, too.
- Monkey received a character award at school for Respect (1/8)
There were around 6 total character awards per grade. Very proud!
- Toured and applied to a magnet school for Monkey for first grade (we find out if he got in 2/5)
- Had our first snow in our new house (1/17)
- Scheduled a tour of a local pre-school for the MM for next August (1/22)
- Monkey’s first school performance (1/22)
- Roller skating for the first time for a school fundraiser (1/30)
- Mommy’s band has scheduled their second show (2/6)
- Researching soccer and/or karate options for the MM, and track options for Monkey
- Work on potty training the MM (ughhhhhh)
Whew! Non-stop action over here.
I may or may not have shared that I’m in a new position at work. My boss left for a job at another company in early Dec. and my new boss offered me a position that is a step up the ladder (from Sr. Principal to Manager, though I have no direct reports yet). I still would have preferred the Seattle position, but alas, it was not offered. Anyway, this post is not technically about my new job, but rather how my new boss has asked me to travel a couple of times. I want to see if any of you out there have had this issue while nursing and how you handled it.
The MM will be 9 months old on Jan 29th. He will take a bottle, but will only drink a small portion (less than an oz.). We started him on solids at 6 months, but he is not all that interested. He often totally refuses baby food, but sometimes he eats it up. What does he want? Mama’s milk – directly from Mama. Not a problem for me, until possibly now. My boss wanted me to come to Northern California at the end of Feb for two nights for a meeting. I didn’t say no exactly, but kind of let it be known that I might have difficulty attending. She wrote me back and said I don’t have to come (her exact words were, “I won’t hold it against you,” which felt a little… weird) and can call in to the meetings. Now, all of my (male) peers (including one who lives on the East coast) will be attending and I kind of feel like I’m blowing it by not going. I just think both the MM and I would be in misery (not to mention Mommy). I worry about him not taking the bottle or food, crying all night (we co-sleep and he still wakes a few times in the night to nurse), causing an early end to nursing, and my supply taking a hit.
So do you think I have reason for concern or should I throw caution to the wind and go? Have any of you had to travel without baby while nursing during the first year? How did it go (for you and for baby)? At what point should I be able to travel without him? I’m thinking once he’s a year, but of course that means night weaning. I always said I’d be night weaning at a year anyway after years of night nursing Monkey, but now that it’s almost here, I’m kind of softening my stance : / Tell me your stories of travels and nurslings and outcomes (oh my!), Mamas!
PS: Remember how we were going to Dis.ney.land to celebrate Monkey’s 4th birthday today – Friday? Cancelled due to 3 of us being sick as dogs (both boys and me) and MiL breaking her arm and needing assistance. Oy! Will try to reschedule for late Feb. When it rains…
Remember that series I did on night weaning back in February? Well, it turns out I get a lot of visitors here who Google for information on night weaning. So I thought I’d do a final update to let you all know where we are now (i.e. did night weaning solve our sleep woes?). In short, YES it absolutely did! I’ve gotten so used to sleeping through the night these days that I’ve almost forgotten (almost) how miserable it used to be with Monkey waking 3-5 times in the night to nurse. I was a walking zombie of crank!
These days, Monkey goes to bed around 7:30-8PM and sleeps until 5:30-6:30AM. (The 6:30AM thing has just started happening in the last week and I pray to the Sleep Gods that it continues.) He hardly ever wakes up in the night – I can only think of one time in the last few months that he did and I think he didn’t feel well. He also sleeps like a log. He used to wake fairly easily and once he was awake, it was extremely difficult to get him back to sleep. Now? He can fall asleep in the car and be carried in and put to bed without ever waking up. We have bed rails (he is in our bed and out of his crib completely at this point) and once he is asleep in the bed, we put them up. It is fairly loud but it never wakes him. Yes, I’m sure this is partly that magical toddler deep sleep thing, but I think it is also the fact that he has learned that sleep time is just that. TO SLEEP!
So those of you who have found your way here in a sleep-deprived fog hoping for light at the end of the tunnel? Don’t give up! It works! You can do this! If we can do it, believe me you can do it. Monkey used to be the world’s worst sleeper and now? Aside from the occasional super early wake up, he’s a rock star.
I suppose the next sleep-related issue we’ll have to tackle is getting him to sleep in his own bed. But really? We’re in no rush. Everyone is SLEEPING and that is the important part. We will get him in his own bed in time. Sometimes when he’s got me pushed to the very edge of the bed and I feel my annoyance level rising, I try to think about how in not so many years he’ll not want so much Mama closeness. And then I snuggle him tight 🙂
Exactly one week to the day of Monkey’s very last nursing session, my period has arrived. For the record, I have not missed her.
Monkey napped for exactly 30 minutes today. Should be a fun afternoon!
I talked to my doctor about the possibility of pregnancy in regard to taking meds for high cholesterol. I found out that she can switch me to a different med that is okay for pregnant/nursing mothers. If we decide to go for it, that’s what we’ll do. For now, I’m going on Lipitor for 6 weeks and then retesting to see where my levels are. I’m hoping we make a call by then and at that point, I’ll either switch to the other drug and do an FET cycle or stay on Lipitor and close up the baby-making factory. No idea right this minute which it’ll be. Sigh.
This is a good news post, friends First, I had the biopsy on the thyroid nodule and got the call yesterday that it is benign. Whew! Now I’ll just have to have yearly thyroid ultrasounds to ensure that it stays that way, with the possibility of another biopsy down the road. Not looking forward to that again, but beats the alternative! It really wasn’t that bad – the anticipation was worse than the actual procedure. So, the thyroid appears to be all good.
Second, Monkey is officially weaned! I can’t believe it, but it’s true. He last nursed at bedtime on Wednesday night. Since then, he’s asked for “go-go” a couple of times but is totally fine when I tell him that go-go is night-night. I kept up with the night-night thing as I know it’s something he understands and I feel like it’s kinder and gentler than just telling him no more go-go, you know? Anyway, it has worked. While I’m happy to no longer have him attacking me for go-go round the clock, I am also sad that I’ll never again experience him on the breast, twirling my hair and gazing into my eyes. I feel like we are now almost completely past his baby stage. Once we have potty-trained, I’ll know we are truly done with Monkey’s babyhood. Tear.
Speaking of potty-training, we are going to tackle that using a 3-day method my pal J over at MommaOak alerted me to in a few weeks. We want to get a little further into post-weaning territory before springing another new thing on him, you know?
Happy St. Patrick’s Day! We’re celebrating by doing absolutely nothing on this dreary, rainy day 🙂
For those who don’t have my password for protected posts, I posted a few weeks back about submitting Monkey to a local talent agency after seeing a friend on FB talk about doing so with her kids. It was a total spur-of-the-moment crazy decision, but I heard back within a few hours! They scheduled Monkey to come in and see them last Wednesday. Monkey and DW went in and the woman said he was too shy and not talkative enough to do commercials but that he could do print. Then she told DW that he’d need to be able to go to a room separate from her sometimes during a shoot. Um, nuh-and-uh. DW told her she wasn’t comfortable with that, and the woman then said something about there being a CA law that says children on sets must be within sight or hearing of a parent at all times. DW told her we’d discuss it and let her know. We researched a bit and talked a lot and decided that we’d go forward, but that at no point would Monkey ever be allowed out of DW’s sight on a set. So I sent the woman an email last Friday letting her know our decision. We heard back from her yesterday with a big old brush off, so I guess we were more trouble than we were worth. We’re fine with it – no way would I ever allow my 2-year-old (or my 3-4-5-6-etc.-year-old) to go into a separate room with strangers. I can’t believe anyone would be okay with that. Fortunately, we had absolutely nothing invested in this (emotionally, financially, or otherwise) so it’s totally fine. It was all done on a whim, and now I’m over it 🙂
We have (finally) started the process of day-weaning. Yesterday, Monkey nursed after his nap and then not again until bedtime. Today he nursed once in the morning and once after his nap. He will do so again at bedtime. You may recall that we were not on any sort of schedule, so this is step one – getting to 3 nursing sessions per day. I figure we’ll do this for 3 days or so and then drop the mid-day session. Monkey got pretty upset this morning when I wouldn’t let him nurse after his first nursing this morning. I just held him and hugged him and told him, “Go-go is night-night right now. You can have go-go again after naptime.” He cried for less than 10 minutes and then he accepted some graham crackers and water. My poor baby. I’ll keep you updated on how it progresses. I hope to be all done with b’fing in the next couple of weeks. Bittersweet.
This is the final post in my night-weaning series. See also night 1, night 2, night 3, night 4, night 5, night 6, night 7, and night 8. And a new update from June here.
Well, friends, I would say we have officially night-weaned, given that Monkey hasn’t nursed overnight for 10 nights and he doesn’t cry for it at this point. His sleep has also improved significantly, though there is still room for improvement. Our last couple of nights have been about like this:
- 7PM: Bed (this has become our official night-night time, no matter how the nap went).
- ~9PM: Baby awake, unable to go back to sleep, family goes to bed (this is an area we hope improves with time).
- 4-4:30AM: Baby awake, goes back to sleep within 20-30 minutes (this is the other area we hope improves with time).
- ~6:30AM: Up for the day.
Pretty good, right? It used to be nursing at least twice in the night and up for the day between 4-5AM. I’ll take it! Bottom line: Night weaning is a success.
Next up: Weaning completely (sob). My plan is to regulate nursing so that it happens once in the morning, once after nap, and then at bedtime. Then start dropping them, bedtime being the last to go. I’m open to any tips for those of you who have completed weaning.
This is night 8 in my series on night weaning. See also night 1, night 2, night 3, night 4, night 5, night 6 and night 7.
Yeah, I’m gonna keep going with the series until we reach a couple of nights in a row of good sleep. I just don’t want to end until we reach the good sleep. I’ll also try to update with other Monkey things of interest at the end.
Another icky night:
- 7:30PM: Bedtime. And btw, thanks to those who responded on the bedtime issue. We are thinking we will set bedtime at 7PM from here on out and see how it goes.
- 9PM: Baby awake. I walked him around and got him back to sleep in his crib.
- 9:45PM: Baby awake. We all go to bed. Monkey cried pretty hard for about 10 minutes and seemed very sad 😦 He didn’t ask for go-go, but I think that was what had him upset. We soothed him and rubbed his back and belly (when he’d let us – he would push our hands away sometimes in anger), and finally he went to sleep.
- 11:30PM: Baby awake. He moaned and groaned, tossed and turned, pulled hair (something he always does in bed, usually when nursing), but was back to sleep rather quickly.
- 12:45AM: Baby awake. More of the same behavior from the 11:30PM wake up.
- 1:15AM: Baby awake. More of the same behavior from the 11:30PM/1:15AM wake ups.
- 5AM: Baby awake. We try to get him back to sleep, but it doesn’t happen. He isn’t upset, just awake and rolling around
- 6AM: DW gets up with Monkey.
I usually try to get up with him Fri-Sun, but I was just so beat. Even though the breast is out of the equation, Monkey still clings to me when he wakes in the night, making sleep difficult. Some of the night wakings DW isn’t even aware of. So she took the early shift again. Bless her.
I don’t think I’ve mentioned here that we are taking Monkey for his first trip to Disneyland next weekend. We are so excited! We’re going with a friend and his 3-year-old son (it will he his first trip as well). I hope we all have a great time. Our plan is to be extremely relaxed and just take it easy. We are lucky that we can do that since DL is only 1.5 hours away from home. If we were buying airline tickets and doing a whole vacation around it, we might feel a bit more pressured to get everything in. We have booked two character meals (a dinner and a lunch) and I think Monkey is going to LOVE it. He really loves meeting characters, so this should be a no-brainer. We are going to D’land one day and California Adventure the next. They have Mater and Lightning McQueen at CA Adventure – OMG Monkey is going to freak out! So fun!