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24w4d: updates

I realized I haven’t done a proper post with words and stuff since my post on depression many moons ago. So here we go!

Depression

I’m actually feeling much better lately. I’m thinking that being sick (twice, for over a month!) really affected my emotional state. The colds are gone and I’ve also added a bit of coffee back into my morning routine and both are helping me immensely. I went off the coffee when we were TTC and stayed off until my second trimester. Having a cup (or two) in the morning helps me have a more productive start to my day and not feel like a total sloth. My OB is fine with it and I really limit my caffeine intake throughout the rest of the day, so it’s good. I still have the number of someone should I find myself  in need, but for now I’m doing well and am going to try to make it through to the birth before restarting my ADs. Thanks to all of you who chimed in with your stories and support. Such a great community!

Pregnancy

I’m more than halfway through and am feeling really HUGE! I feel the baby move a lot, which is very different from my last pregnancy. My placenta was in front of the baby last time, so I didn’t feel movement for a long time and when I finally did, I didn’t feel much of it. This time? I started really feeling him at about 22 weeks and it just gets stronger and stronger. I’m able to see my belly move and DW has felt him kick as well. Fun!

We also have a birthdate: the newbie will make his appearance on Monday, April 29th! I’ll find out the exact time at my next OB appointment, but we went ahead and selected a date at my last one. It’s so funny that when I think of this new guy, I just see Monkey as an infant. I also think about how we’ll have the Christmas tree and decor up – until I remember that this guy will be born in April, not in December. My brain just refuses to switch to this new timeframe. New baby = Christmas, colder weather, turkey dinner. Only not so much this time around 🙂 Funny, huh?

We have also gone through all of our baby stuff and realized that while we are pretty set on a lot of baby clothes, we will need to buy some new things as the seasons will be different for this guy. For example, all of our newborn stuff is for wintertime. Some of it will be fine (onesies, footed sleepers, etc.), but we will need some warm weather things as well. I’ve already done two big Gym.bor.ee purchases since they are having such HUGE sales right now. My local store had a ton of summer stuff for infants (I assume from last year) for $3.50-$4.00 a pop, so I got some super adorable things for dirt cheap.

Friends of ours have a baby boy who just turned a year old and they have generously offered us many of their baby items, which is awesome as we had to get rid of large items from Monkey because 1.) we had no room for them and 2.) most of what we had last time was 2nd/3rd hand and was really done after Monkey. So we’ll be getting a swing, bouncy seat, infant car seat, and other necessities from them. SO glad! I hate to buy new stuff that you’ll only use for a few months and then dump, so this is really great.

One big item we will need is a glider/rocker. I had one from a co-worker last time and we donated it when we were done as we didn’t really like the looks of it. Now, though, I kind of wish we’d held onto it as I don’t want to spend the money on it. I’m not a fan of the glider (just think they’re kind of ugly), so it’s not something I want in my house once we’re past the need for it. Maybe we can find a nice upholstered rocker that will fit with our furniture and we can hold onto for a while. I don’t know. Did anyone get something they loved for not too much money?

Monkey

This guy is getting to be such a big boy! He has really been talking much more and we feel like we don’t really need to have him evaluated anymore. His preschool teacher has also been telling us how quickly his speech has amped up in the last month or two. It’s kind of wild!

He had his 3 year checkup in early Jan, where he weighed 34 lbs (we think he lost a little weight due to his cold) and he measured 38 1/4″ tall. Everything checked out perfectly, but his doctor did lecture us a bit about potty training. Sigh. We are still trying on that front. He is so stubborn!

We are still co-sleeping, but it is getting harder as my belly gets bigger. We will be purchasing a king-sized bed in the next few weeks, so we’re hopeful that will help. We’re also considering setting up his crib as a toddler bed and seeing if we can’t coax him into sleeping there (still in our room). We’ll see… He is still an early riser (typically up around 5:30), but for the last few days he’s been sleeping until 6-6:30. We are SO hopeful this will become the new trend. Anything after 6 is totally acceptable.

Monkey doesn’t seem to really have much of a clue that a new baby is on the way. We talk to him about it and show him my belly. He will tell you baby brother’s name and hug and kiss my belly, but I don’t get the sense that he understands there’s a little person in there who will be coming out here and turning his little world upside down. I guess none of us every truly get that concept until it’s our reality 🙂

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6 weeks, 2 days

Yep, feeling pretty pregnant these days what with the nausea, major appetite (combined with “ew, I can’t eat another bite of this nasty thing that I wanted so badly a minute ago”), peeing like crazy, insomnia, major crankiness, fatigue, and tears at the drop of a hat. Good times! No, it’s really not that bad. I have all of these symptoms, but they are at the low end of the ick spectrum for the moment. Who knows if that will be the case 2-3 weeks from now…

I went ahead and rescheduled the ultrasound for 9/19. There were many factors at play for the 17th not working, so I’ll just hang in there for an extra 2 days. Not the end of the world.

In Monkey news, we are going to get him scheduled for a speech therapy assessment. He just seems behind the kids at preschool in that area. It can’t hurt and if he is struggling, I want to make sure we do what we can to assist. Most likely it’ll be 2-3 months before he’ll be seen (I love LA!).

We’re also going to try another potty training method starting this Friday. It’s called “Oh crap. Potty training.” Hahaha! Wish us luck! Monkey has been talking more and more about the potty and he LOVES the latest book we have on the topic (My Big Boy Undies), so we’re hopeful. It is adorable to read the undies book with him. There is a page that shows lots of pairs of undies and he goes through each one, “Cars undies. Dinosaurs undies. Red undies.” CUTE!

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here we go again

I got my period on Saturday and called this morning to schedule the first appointment of our last FET cycle. I go in tomorrow at 3. I am too tired to be excited or scared or apprehensive or anything. Monkey’s sleep has been out of control for the last few nights:

  • Friday: Up at 3AM. And stayed up until 10AM.
  • Saturday: Up for the day at 4:30AM.
  • Sunday: Another 3AM affair.
  • Monday: Up from 1:30-5AM. Then he went back to sleep, but only until 7AM.

I have no idea what is up with him – he doesn’t appear to be sick, there have been no changes in terms of his sleep schedule. He’s just UP. IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. I must admit that the idea of adding a newborn to the mix is so very not appealing at this moment, and I almost question our sanity with trying. But I also know that things change all the time and by the time an infant would appear on the scene, Monkey would be almost a year older than he is now. Still, I honestly think I will feel just fine if this attempt ends in a BFN. That could change, of course, but right this minute I’m burned out and tired and just feeling like this is not a very good idea at all. Urgh.

When I’m less sleep-deprived, I’ll do a post on how much fun Monkey is these days (aside from the sleep thing). His language skills are exploding! He has adorable words (“Hay-oh?” for hello, “vee-oh” for video, “gee-affe” for giraffe). So cute! And he’s such a cuddly little guy. Love him like crazy – just wish we could get some solid sleep around here. I never should have written my “sleep is so much better” post a few weeks ago. Totally jinxed us. TOTALLY!

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just a monkey update

I still haven’t started the weaning process. I kind of feel like I don’t know where or how to begin. We don’t have scheduled nursing sessions, so the idea of cutting one at a time doesn’t really do it. The only scheduled session we have is at bedtime and that will be the last to go. I’m thinking about calling the lactation consultant to see if she has any tips. She helped get us going so maybe she can help us stop? No idea.

Lately Monkey has been refusing to get dressed. It’s mostly around putting on a shirt, but there are many times when he refuses to get diapered or put on pants or socks or shoes. It is so frustrating. We keep discovering little tricks that will work for a while but then it’s over. I was able to get him to cooperate for a couple of weeks by letting him pick between two shirts and then singing a little song about getting dressed. That ended and DW started another one – whispering, “I have to tell you something. Let’s put on your pants/shirt/shoes. One two one two!” And he would do it. Not anymore. Today DW left the house with him in pants and socks and shoes, but without a shirt (she brought it with her with the idea that maybe a change of scenery would distract him enough to allow it). We’ll see what happens. Yesterday they didn’t leave the house because he refused to get dressed. I’m sure others of you out there are experiencing this as well. Let’s share our secrets!

Brushing teeth is another big battle. He refuses to cooperate, so we have to physically hold him down and try to brush. He clenches his jaw shut, bites the brush, etc, etc. I feel like he hasn’t had a good tooth brushing in months and I’m scared about the state of his teeth. He used to “brush” on his own sometimes and seemed to like it, but he has refused to do that for months. If I thought he’d go for it, I’d try to get him into a dentist just so I know where we stand. I have a mouth full of fillings (and a couple of crowns) even though I always floss and brush and take care of my teeth, so this is anothe reason I’m so worried. Tips in this area would also be greatly appreciated.

Monkey mimics words a lot these days, so his speaking skills are rapidly improving. We are also really watching what we say around him 🙂 A funny: He loves Cars (though he’s not yet seen the film – we have a DVD of Mater shorts that he likes) and he used to call Lightning McQueen “Kee-kee-keen!” That has turned into “KinalaKeen!” The number of “Kinalas” varies, so sometimes it’s “KinalaKinalaKinalaKeen!” So friggin’ cute. He continues to love numbers and letters and he shocks the hell out of me by how many he knows! It’s nuts! He doesn’t sing the whole ABC song, but he identifies many letters and gets very excited while doing so. He is starting to understand the teens (in terms of numbers), and he really loves counting things.

I know that potty training is in our near future. We bought Elmo’s Potty Time and the Signing Times potty DVD and he enjoys watching them. He tells us whenever he is about to poo but he doesn’t want to sit on the potty. To be fair, we haven’t been very pro-active about having him sit on the potty at all. Guess we should start that. We have a Bjorn potty and a Bjorn potty seat for the big potty, so we’re all ready on that front.

TTC #2? Still mulling that one over… Sigh.

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granny and papa visit

Sorry for being so MIA lately. My parents were in town from last Thursday through this morning. We had a lot of fun, but I’m ready to have my house back. We (finally) had Monkey’s 2nd birthday party last Saturday at a bounce house place. It was a ton of fun! The kids all had a blast (the adults did, too).

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We hit all of Monkey’s hotspots, including two local malls, our park, and Gymboree. We also took them to the Getty for the first time.

ImageIt is always a little sad to drop them off at the end of the visit. We’ll see them again in July for the annual beach trip 🙂

ION, we toured our local co-op nursery school yesterday and put Monkey on the list for next Fall. Craziness! It is walking distance from our house and very affordable. Another two mom family we know has their oldest enrolled and will be starting their youngest in the fall. He is 10 days younger than Monkey and they have weekly playdates, so it will be nice to have a friend on the first day 🙂 I can’t believe we are already to pre-school!

Monkey is talking up a storm lately. This morning when we left the house, he said, “Bye bye! See you soon!” Hahahahaha! Every day he has new words and better pronunciation than the day before. He loves to count and can get to 13 now (“thu-thu-thu-teen!”). He can also identify and say many letters. It’s happening fast and furious these days. He’s also done a bit of backsliding on sleep lately – maybe there’s a connection there. We’ve been up between 4-4:30 for a few weeks now after reaching 5:30-6 for quite a while. Let’s hope we’re back there again soon! Mama is so tired!

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misc. update

It’s been so long since I’ve posted that I have lots of disjointed things to discuss. So here goes…

2 year checkup

Monkey had his 2 year appointment on the 5th. It was the first time he was able to be weighed and measured like a big boy (standing on the scale). He freaked out! I have no idea why, but we weren’t able to get accurate stats for weight and height. Sigh. He did much better in the exam room, allowing Dr. S to look in his eyes, ears, and mouth with no problem at all. Wouldn’t you think that would be freakier than standing on a scale? Oh, Monkey. Anyway, all checked out just fine and we were in and out in half an hour. There was one vaccination – Hepatitis A. There were tears for that one, but that’s to be expected. I can’t believe we now have a whole year before his next regular exam! Yay!

Talking

Monkey has really amped up in this area. He is now putting phrases and sentences together like crazy and he has tons of words. He’s continually surprising us with what he knows. It’s so cool! He remembers stuff and talks about that, too. Like we had a beautiful full moon last night. This morning he said, “[Monkey] see moon!” And he talks about our friends’ dog who likes to chase balls (“Doggy chase ball.”). Yesterday we had a late holiday thing with some friends and there many Christmas cookies out. Monkey was constantly at the counter reaching up and saying, “[Monkey] cookie now!” Hahahaha! Adorbs.

Birthday party

We are having Monkey’s second birthday party on Jan. 21st at a place near us that is all bounce houses. It’s kind of pricey, but it’ll be fun and also nice not to have to do much but just show up. They are providing food (pizza) and decorations, and we are bringing cupcakes and a fruit platter. A friend had his son’s birthday at a place like this last year and it was a blast for kids and adults. Here is the cute invitation we sent out. I really wanted to get these cupcake toppers, but it’s silly expensive once you factor in shipping and getting enough for 24 cupcakes. I need to get crafty and learn how to make these sort of things… We figure we’ll just get some generic birthday-themed toppers and cupcake holders in primary colors and be done with it.

Granny and Papa visit

My parents are coming out next week for a visit. My dad is staying for 4-5 days and my mom will be here for a week. I took the whole time off, so we should have some good times. We are contemplating Disneyland, but I’m not sure Monkey is quite ready yet. No matter what we do, it’ll be nice to have them around. I know they miss seeing Monkey. Maybe Mama and Mommy can even squeeze in some couple time. What a concept!

Teething/sleeping

The teething situation has improved greatly since my last post. We are back to our normal nighttime routine (nursing a lot, but not up in the night for hours). I think he’s still teething, though, as I’m still seeing blood on the toothbrush and I’m brushing very gently with a soft-bristled brush. It is very difficult to get his teeth brushed as he fights it like crazy. We have to hold him down and brush, which we all hate. I’m worried about cavities but I’m not sure what I can do that we aren’t already doing. When do you typically start taking a kid to the dentist? I’ve heard 3, which makes sense, but I’m kind of concerned about waiting that long when he doesn’t let us brush appropriately. Argh.

General 2-ness

Monkey has decided lately that he HATES having a shirt put on. It takes forever to get him dressed to go anywhere, and sometimes we end up having to hold him down while he screams and cries and force a shirt on him. We try to get his PJ top on, but if he fights us (and he usually does lately), we let him sleep in just his PJ pants. Just this morning I was able to get him by just heading for the front door and saying, “Let’s go outside!” He came over and allowed me to put his shirt on. It’d be nice if this were a new trend, but I’m not holding my breath. He also pitches a fit when it’s time to go home after having fun somewhere. I find that just letting him have the tantrum (lay down on the ground and cry and generally freak out) while I stand or kneel nearby quietly works best. The tantrum ends fairly quickly and then we are on our merry way. I’m a little scared of 3 – everyone tells us that 3 is the worst in terms of tantrums and toddler craziness.

TTC #2?

Still not sure where we are here. Weaning is not happening right now, but we’re planning to start trying with it soon. I wanted to wait until the teething situation improved and lately it has. At some point here we’re going to have to bite the bullet and just do it. It’s going to be H.A.R.D. Any of you have any success with this lately? I know there were a few of us talking about starting the process.

 

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status at almost 2

Here is an update on what Monkey is up to lately, one week before his second birthday. Thanks to strawberry at 1 in Vermillion for the great categories!

Food

  • Describe what and how your child eats: He runs hot and cold with food. Some meals are great, others he barely touches. It can be the same food, too. One day, grilled cheese is awesome. The next, he has to spit it out quickly. Some of his favorite foods include yogurt, asparagus, pizza, any fruit, dill pickles, bread (garlic bread in particular), and scrambled eggs.

Sleep

  • Does your child have any sleep problems? Oh boy. He is still up fairly frequently in the night (3-5 times), but he has been sleeping until 5:30ish pretty regularly lately. Yes that’s early, but it beats 4-4:30, which we used to regularly get. He goes to sleep at night without trouble. We are hoping to begin night weaning SOON, which we hope will lead to fewer night-wakings and better sleep all around.

Activity and Motor Development

  • Describe your child’s gross and fine motor skills (how he moves around, grabs things, etc.). He is really great at throwing. He can throw a ball fairly far and with decent accuracy. He has good balance and enjoys climbing, jumping, and running. No issues at all in this department.

Social Skills and Environment

  • What can your child do for himself? Funny you should ask as I’ve been thinking he needs to start doing more for himself. He has started to play around with spoons and forks at mealtime, but not regularly and he’s not all that accurate with it. Still, he tries and claps when he is successful. I want him to start helping pick up his toys, work on getting dressed (at least partially), and potty training.
  • How does your child react to family outings and visitors? Family outings are hit or miss. Sometimes he loves it and has a great time. Other times, he is cranky and throws a tantrum (or 20). He loves visitors. Anytime someone comes to the door he runs to see who it is and greets him/her with a wave and a big, “HI!”

Coping

  • Describe how your child copes with discomfort, frustration, or other distress: Loud crying, sometimes bites, sometimes bangs head on the floor. Says no a lot (even when he means yes!).

Language and Communication

  • Describe your child’s language abilities: He knows a ton of words, but many only Mama and Mommy can decipher. He is actively describing his environment (points and names objects, people, animals and looks for validation). He only has a few 2 word phrases, but seems to be moving forward a bit quicker lately. We are holding off on speech evaluation for a bit longer.

Toys and Play

  • List your child’s favorite toys and describe how he plays with them: Monkey is all about Hot Wheels/Matchbox cars. He can’t get enough of them. He likes to find little hidey hole spots to put them in and he also just pushes them around on various surfaces. He also likes to throw balls and is into anything Cars-, Yo Gabba Gabba-, or Elmo-related. You can also find him quietly looking at books on his own. Fairly recent discoveries include coloring and playing with Play-Dough.
  • Does your child have a lovey? No lovey, but we’ve been trying to work a small Elmo doll into bedtime in the hopes that it might help with weaning at some point. Who needs a lovey when you co-sleep and nurse whenever you want. Hell, I’m his lovey.
  • Does your child play with other children? He is just lately starting to do this. DW has several playdates per week so he is around other kids his age a lot, but only recently has he been playing with them rather than alongside him. This seems to be the norm as the other toddlers do the same 🙂

Feelings and Moods

  • Describe your child’s range of feelings (comfort, discomfort, pleasure, joy, anger, affection, fear, hostility, depression / sadness) and how he expresses them: We always refer to Monkey as intense, and he is. When he is happy or feeling cuddly, his whole body shows it. He gives big, hearty hugs and kisses and wants to be held and cuddled frequently. When he’s mad, it’s wild. He screams and cries like the world is ending, will go limp and lay on the floor, sometimes banging his head on the floor. He often seems to be at one end of the spectrum or the other. There are many times, though, when he’ll play happily and just smile or wave at us.
  • What is likely to upset your child? Reaching the end of a really fun time. Taking away an item that he shouldn’t have/is dangerous. Trying to wean : /
  • What makes him feel better? Nursing. Oy.

Other

  • How many teeth? You know, I’m not sure but I know he is getting his 2 year molars as I’ve seen them and he has times when his hand is in his mouth constantly and he’s cranky (poor guy).
  • In what ways, if any, does your child behave aggressively toward you, his siblings, his playmates, or others?  I’ve never seen him be aggressive toward anyone but DW or me when he is angry or really excited (sometimes hits or bites when he’s really having some fun).
  • Does your child have a strong preference for one parent? Right now, it’s me (Mama). He is going through a super-clingy, nursing-all-the-time phase. Sigh.

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