Category Archives: 6 months

bad mother?

Sleep training is going okay – last night was night 6. S is sleeping from around 6-6:30PM to around 3-3:30AM, which is awesome. Then he goes back down for another hour or two once he falls back to sleep. Much to DW’s chagrin, however, I am feeling really conflicted about it. It takes anywhere from 20-55 minutes to get baby to sleep at night, and he’s bawling like crazy during that time. It doesn’t seem to help him at all that one of us is there in the room with him (following the Sleep Lady technique, which we thought was supposed to be more gentle than Ferber or Weissbluth). I never wanted to do CIO, but I feel like that is exactly what we’re doing. He has also been crying for 20-35 minutes at his 3-3:30AM wake up, but last night I nursed him and put him back in the crib at that wake up and he played in his crib for about 30 minutes and then fussed (not really crying) for about 5-10 minutes and went back to sleep until the $%*&^! cats woke us all up at 6:15AM (they were used to baby being up at 4:30 or 5:00AM and getting fed at that time). If I could get him to do that at bedtime and all wake times, I’d be okay with it. But I feel like an abusive mother listening to him cry (and I mean cry) for 20+ minutes every night. DW told me last night that she can’t go back to what we were doing (co-sleeping, up many times in the night) – it was affecting her ability to parent during the day. I have also noticed that S is much less fussy during the day, I assume because he’s getting a good night’s rest. I’m just so conflicted. I guess we’ll continue for now, but if he backslides, I’m just not sure I can do this again. I wish S was a baby who just went to sleep when he’s tired. He’s a total sleep fighter.

The anti-CIO stuff has me thinking, though. Like when baby had to learn to take a bottle, he cried and cried several times a day for several weeks until he accepted it. But I had to work, so he had to learn. If he were going to day care, I’m sure there would be lots of tears in the beginning for that as well. Is CIO at bedtime really any worse than CIO in these other situations? Not judging or anything, I was just sincerely wondering about it.

In other baby news, we are having S’s 6 month photos taken on Friday (a few days shy of 7 months, but who’s counting?). I’m excited to get some professional shots. We also plan to be in a few as we have almost no photos of the 3 of us together. It’s Mama and S, Mommy and S, or just S in our pics.

We’re also gearing up for our Comic-Con trip next week. Our plan is to bring the stroller to get from our car to the convention center, check the stroller at the CC, and use the Ergo in the hall. This is what we’ll do Thursday morning when the con first opens. I predict he’ll do well for a couple of hours, and then we’ll have to take him out of there. I am planning to spend most of my time at the pool or beach (close to the condo we’re staying at) with S and let Mommy enjoy her con. I hope baby can tolerate it a little bit as I would like to go in a few times if possible, but if he can’t, that’s okay, too. In the not-too-distant future, he will love going! Can’t wait!

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eating and sleeping (is there anything else?)

S had his 6 month check up on Friday. He is now 19 lbs, 27 1/4″. Big boy 🙂 His Mamas joined in the vaccination fun! We had to get tetanus shots due to the Whooping Cough epidemic in California. Who knew?

Solids report: He has had rice cereal (loves it), banana (hated it), avocado (was unsure), and applesauce (again, unsure). The applesauce may have been a temperature issue (was in fridge), so we’re going to try again at room temp and see what he thinks. I also made my first round of baby food last night! Peaches and sweet potato. It was really easy (and tasty, too)! I’m thinking we’ll try the sweet potato next – I can’t imagine that he won’t like that! It’s sufficiently bland with enough sweetness that it should do the trick. I also picked up some oatmeal since he really likes his other cereal.

He cracks me up when trying new food. He kicks his feet like crazy while eating his cereal and is just anxious for the next bite. When you give him something new, however, the feet kicking stops and he gets a grimace on his face. Sometimes he sticks his tongue out with the offending bite on it. Other times he kind of fake gags. It’s funny as hell. Lord, don’t let me end up with a picky eater! I was never a picky eater as a child, but my brother was ridiculous. Kid didn’t even like pizza! Hopefully it’s too early to call that one.

I think I’m going to need to add a nightly pumping session. ICK! I have been producing enough at work to get two 5 oz. bottles but now that we are doing solids, I need more on hand to mix with cereal, etc. I HATE pumping, but it must be done. We (finally) bought a bottle warmer last week and it seems to have really helped baby take the bottle more easily. I feel like an idiot for not having done it sooner! He now holds the bottle mostly on his own and takes most, if not all, of it. Let’s hope this is a continuing trend.

I feel like most of my entries lately have been so negative due to the sleep thing, but hopefully that is about to change. We are going to start doing the Sleep Lady technique of sleep training on Wednesday or Thursday night. It seems like a humane way of sleep training (not leaving him to CIO). If he were able to sleep nicely in bed with us, I’d be happy to co-sleep, but he tosses and turns and wants to nurse all night, leaving both of us tired in the AM. Anyway, I really hope he responds well to the gentle method. We are going to bite the bullet and make the office into S’s room (slowly at first, but eventually it will be all his). Moving his crib at some point this week. While I’m ready for us to start sleeping again, it is also sad to think of him out of our room and even in some ways, out of our bed. The nights always start off so nice, with baby snuggled up next to me sleeping like a little angel. I will miss that.

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6 months

It’s just crazy to me that S is already 6 months old. It seems like just yesterday we were bringing him home from the hospital. We love our little guy like I can’t tell you. Every day brings new discoveries (hello, tongue! hello, voice!). He is sitting up really well at this point, though he can’t get into the sitting position on his own yet. We started rice cereal last Thursday, and tried banana on Sunday. He was not feeling it. I think we’re going for it again tomorrow. Next up: avocado! Guacamole for Mamas and avo for S! Yay!

We are starting to get desperate with the sleeping situation. It is just so bad. Even having him in the bed doesn’t really solve it as he wants to nurse constantly and I get very little sleep. We were at the pediatrician’s office yesterday because S has a little rash (was nothing serious), and he told us to “let him cry – no intervention.” No way I can do that. We let him cry last night for 10 minutes and he really started to get himself worked up (coughing, etc.) and I totally caved. I can’t handle hearing him get upset like that. However, we also can’t go much longer on no sleep. DW was in tears yesterday morning and she is like a rock usually. Where it’ll end, I don’t know. Sorry to bore you all with our sleep woes, but it’s where we are right now.

We go back to the ped on Friday for S’s 6 month appointment. Poor bug will not be happy with more shots. I’m so curious to see what he weighs. He seems so huge!

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