>First, thank you all for your support and kindness in re: my last post. I’m going through waves of “it’ll all be fine” and “you’ll be the 1 in that 1:8” craziness. Trying desperately to put it out of my head as I won’t know for a little while. We’re trying to decide whether we want to do the FSH (or is it FISH?) thing where they have some preliminary results (including Downs result) after 48 hours or just wait the 2 weeks for the whole panel to be done. We are going on vacation from 7/20-7/27, the amnio is 7/15, and so the FSH results would arrive the Friday before we leave. If the results are bad, vacation ruined. If they are good, vacation is better than it will be without knowing. I hate that this all fell at the same time. Argh.
Predictably, I’m not sleeping well and that combined with stress and hormones is making me kind of a nutcase. I was almost in tears at work yesterday over nothing. Fortunately I recovered myself before anyone knew (I do not want to be seen as the emotional pregnant lady in the workplace). I really need that week off. And because things aren’t quite crazy enough, our remodel starts today. I guess I’m going to get a hotel room for next Thur-Fri as my OB told me to be on modified bed rest for 48 hours following the amnio and that isn’t going to be possible with the state my house is in right now. Plus they are scraping the ceilings Thur-Fri of next week. How much nuttier can it get, people?
I would also not advise doing the first trimester screening if:
- It won’t matter to you what the results are (i.e. you’ll not terminate no matter the results)
- You are planning on doing an amnio regardless
We had always planned on an amnio because of my age, so we could have avoided all this stress and just gotten definitive results with the amnio. After reading about all the false positives, this test just seems like a bad idea and I’m really bummed out that we did it at all. The only people that this test might be for are those who are unsure whether they want to do an amnio or not and want to use the results as a guide. Just my 2 cents.
It’s strange to feel past the worry of miscarriage (I know I’m pregnant what with the growing belly and gagging all the time) and on to the worry over prenatal screening. I guess it’s a graduation of sorts?
>Okay, I’m trying not to freak out. My OB called with the results of the bloodwork and said that there is a 1 in 8 chance that the baby has Downs Syndrome. I’ve heard from so many people that they got terrible results from this screening and ended up with a perfectly healthy baby, but that 1 in 8 just scared the shit out of me. Is it too much to ask for one thing to just be fine in this process? Now we get to worry for the next month (amnio is 7/15 and results won’t be in until two weeks after that).
On the plus side, the doctor said that the nuchal translucency result was great and that he’s seen lots of people with these odds and worse come through just fine. Still, this is going to be a tough few weeks.
The transfer went well (I hope) on Friday. We had 2 straws with 4 embryos and 1 straw with 3. RE wanted to use one with 4, so we went with it. All 4 embryos survived the thaw, and my RE was hoping to put in at least 3. We had already talked about it and decided that we just didn’t want to risk it so we had them put in 2. Like DW said, with our luck lately, we’d end up being the .2% that ends up pregnant with quads. Of the 4 embryos, 2 were excellent grade and 2 were good, so I feel fine with just transferring the 2 excellent ones. Here’s hoping at least one is sticking!
We transferred the bottom two embryos:
In other news, I seem to have developed an allergy to the PIO shots. They have been extremely painful this time around and have been leaving giant bruised welts. My butt has gone from sore to HOLY HELL I CAN’T SIT DOWN. RE is switching me to suppositories, which will have their own fun, but damn will I be glad to get my ass back!
>Since I’m in a bit of a holding pattern this week, I thought I’d blog about other stuff. If there’s anything you’d like to know, comment and I’ll tell ya’.
Today’s post is about my user picture (posted below for posterity):
This picture is of me and my lovely wife (top two pale-ass hands – I’m on the right) and two of our best friends (R and L) who also got gay married when it was legal in CA. None of us were itching to get married, but my wife started talking about how it was important to use rights when you get them. Being the smarty that she is, we all thought about it and agreed that it was an important political move. So we scheduled weddings and were the witnesses at each others’ ceremonies. L and I got married at the Beverly Hills Courthouse on August 14. I was actually nervous and laughed in inappropriate spots during the ceremony. Still, it was also moving and felt really great to acknowledge our relationship in this way. Plus I got jewelry! We exchanged rings (not super expensive ones) and I got a Cartier Love bracelet. The plan is to get our initials and the initials of any children we have engraved on the inside of the bracelet. I love this thought and can’t wait to get it engraved.
Then we honeymooned in the Keys:
Our friends R and L had a small ceremony in their backyard. It was intimate and sweet and their 2 year old daughter was in attendance.
Then Prop 8 happened and we protested:
But we are all still married and still in love, and no Prop can take that away.
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