Category Archives: testing

ultrasound and gay parenting

We went in to the high-risk OB for what was supposed to be our last visit/ultrasound with him. Unfortunately, baby was in a difficult position so 1.) we didn’t get pictures and 2.) I have to go back in next week to see if he’s moved so that they can check a few things more closely. The little guy is in the frank breech position, meaning he is head up with his legs up over the body:


It’s not really a problem as it’s still early (32 weeks) and he’s coming via c-section no matter what, but it was a bit alarming to see his head and feet so close together! Silly dude! What they could see checked out fine, but they want one more look at him.

OB was a bit alarmed at the size of the baby. He estimates that he is 5 lbs, called him a “big boy,” and said I have an “8 or 9 month sized belly.” He wants me to do the damned hour glucose test again (argh) to make sure all is well, and advised me to watch what I’m eating. Kind of frustrating as I’m not going crazy with the food. I have a lot of 6′ and taller men in my family and both my brother and I were big babies (I was 9 lbs and my bro was 9 lbs, 2 oz). This OB and the other one in his practice are big into childhood obesity research and the connection between it and how the mother eats during pregnancy. I think they are a bit alarmist about it, but I will try to watch what I’m eating more closely. I’m also a little annoyed that I had my regular OB visit last Friday, where she measured my belly and said nothing was out of the ordinary and where they told me I had actually lost 2 lbs since my last appt. Which is it, doctor people?

ION, we are meeting with a lawyer at the Gay and Lesbian Center to find out if DW has to adopt our baby or not. We were thinking that since we are legally married, all we’d have to do is put her name on the birth certificate and we’re all good. Our lawyer advised us to do a 2nd parent adoption, but she doesn’t specialize in family law and is certainly not specialized in LGBT legal issues, so here we go. It is so offensive to me that we’d have to go through a home study and spend several thousand dollars for my wife to legally parent a child we conceived during our marriage. If she were a man and we went the same route to get pregnant (sperm donor), I could just put “his” name as the father and no one would question it. How is that any different than our situation? I know I’m preaching to the choir here, but it has both of us so furious.


Filed under testing, third trimester, ultrasound

>sucktastic day

>My crappy day, let me show you it:

  • As I was leaving the house for my glucose test (7:30AM), the power went out.
  • It rained like crazy all day (usually I love this as we don’t get it often, but not today).
  • I felt light-headed and nauseous throughout the test.
  • When I got home at 12:30, the power was still out.
  • I had to miss 2 afternoon work meetings due to no Internet access. I hate that because I want to be able to work from home more now that I’m in the 3rd trimester. Hopefully they won’t hold it against me.
  • Power company was out front all afternoon and finally left, saying they needed a part and we were looking at probably 5 more hours of no power.
  • I’m at the local library using the Internet and charging my phone. It is hot and full of kids, making me nervous about the old H1N1.

Calgon, take me away!!!!!


Filed under testing, third trimester

>glucose and a birth date

>I called my OB to see how I did on the glucose test. They said my glucose level was “slightly elevated” so I’m on my way to the 3 hour test (Wed. AM). Damn. I sure hope I don’t have GD! Argh!

While I was on the phone, I asked if the doctor had set a C-section date (last time I was there I asked if they could find out) and they have set it. Baby L-M will be born on 12/21! Sad it’s so close to Christmas, but excited to know when he’ll actually be here.


Filed under birthday, testing, third trimester