Before I get into my blog challenge post, let me apologize for that old April 2009 post appearing in everyone’s readers. I went back looking for the exact date of our transfer when we got PG with Monkey as I wanted to remember it on the date in 2011. All my old Blogger posts came into WordPress with “>” signs in the titles and first para, so I cleaned those up as I was going to link to the post. I guess it triggered the post getting re-published. Sigh. I’m still learning the ways of WordPress…
Anyway, tomorrow is the two year anniversary of our FET, which resulted in our beautiful Monkey 🙂 To those two of you who may have missed it, here’s a link to my post on that day: https://path2parenthood.wordpress.com/2009/04/19/post-fet/
Something you regret
DW and I both regret that we waited so long to decide we wanted to have kids. We wish we’d had Monkey about 5 years earlier than we did (at 34 instead of 39). If we had, we wouldn’t feel so under the gun now to make a decision regarding #2. Of course, we may not have gotten Monkey, I wouldn’t have gone back to school for my Masters, and we might not have been in a place where DW could be a SAHM. Still, I hate this feeling of needing to decide OMGRIGHTNOW about something so important and that if we decide to do it, Monkey will have to cut short his experience of being the one and only little baby in the house. If I had my way, I think I’d wait until he was 3 to try again. But I don’t have that luxury.
Something you’re looking forward to
Thinking about this post made me realize just how many things I’m looking forward to now that Monkey is here. His first trip to Disneyland, holidays when he’s old enough to “get it,” traveling to cool places and experiencing them through his eyes, t-ball, watching him develop his own interests, helping him learn to read… I could go on and on. Every single thing I’m looking forward to involves him and seeing the person he grows up to be. I can’t wait! ❤
While I definitely have some goals I’d like to reach, I’m happy to say that at 40, I’ve already achieved many of my goals. I’m married, have a child, finished my education (BA and MA), own a home, have no debt (other than mortgage), have established myself in my career, and bring in a good paycheck. I feel so fortunate to be able to say all of that (and quite proud of my/our accomplishments as well).
In terms of future goals, most of them are personal as opposed to professional:
- First and foremost, to be as good a parent as I can be. I plan to put my child(ren) ahead of everything else, including my own career goals. We plan to schedule our work lives so that we are always home when our child(ren) are not in school. We planned and budgeted so that DW could be a SAHM, and hope to have DW work part-time when he (and any other child we may have) start school so that a parent will be home when he/they are out of school. I remember just loathing after-school care, so I hope to avoid it for my kid(s). I realize that life may throw a curveball or two, and that’s okay, we can adjust. This is just the ideal that we are working toward.
- Buying a house is one that we hope to reach once DW returns to work. We are in a 2 bedroom condo now, which is just bursting at the seams. However, staying put allowed us to have my wife be a SAHM, which is totally, totally worth it. Still, I’m so looking forward to more room in the future.
- Traveling is another important goal. We can’t wait to explore places we love and new places in the world with Monkey!
- HAVE FUN! That is always a goal, no matter what you’re doing in life 🙂
- In terms of my professional life, my goal is NOT to ever be a manager. Hahahahaha! Seriously though, I returned to school to avoid this. I hoped to develop specialized skills that would allow me to make a decent living doing something that interests me without ever having to move into middle management. I think that would suck the soul out of me and want to avoid it if I possibly can. I don’t have a goal to make more money as I make a very nice living and I’m not looking to invest a ton of extra time and effort into work. I’d rather invest it in my family and myself.
What you believe
This is an interesting challenge. I was raised Catholic, attended Catholic school for many years, and was baptised, received Holy Communion, and was confirmed in the church. As an adult, I am agnostic, leaning heavily toward atheism. I believe in doing the right thing because it’s the right thing to do, not because I might be punished in some sort of afterlife should I do wrong. I believe in science, logic, and the power of the intelligent mind. That said, I also believe in respecting others’ beliefs, whatever they may be. I work with an orthodox Jew who is one of the most moral, honest, trustworthy people I’ve ever known. He is also respectful of differences and just an all-around good person. He truly does his religion proud.
For myself, though, I have a hard time believing in a supreme being in general, much less one that would allow the type of suffering that goes on in the world. I don’t know how religious people reconcile the chaos of the universe with their belief system, but if it helps them get through the day, more power to them. As long as they aren’t hurting anyone, I have no issue.
But there’s the rub, right? There have been and continue to be terrible things done in the name of religion. I don’t understand religious wars or the persecution of others in the name of religion. How that fits in with any belief system is beyond me.
Favorite TV shows
Oh, where to begin? But first, let me say that we only have the TV on when we are watching something that we really enjoy. We do not have the TV on for background noise or just to channel surf. DW taught me this habit and I am grateful to her for it. It makes for such a nice, stress-free environment. We’ve had so many people comment on how nice and quiet our house/hotel room is. With that said, we love to get our TV on! My current favorites are Mad Med and An Idiot Abroad. I also enjoy Walking Dead, Pretty Little Liars, The Vampire Diaries, True Blood, and Damages. Guilty pleasures include the silly-ass Kardashians (I know, I know) and Gossip Girl.
All time favorites would include Buffy the Vampire Slayer (LOVE)/Angel/Firefly (I’m big with the Joss Whedon love), The X-Files (I ❤ Scully), Avatar: The Last Airbender, Deadwood, Battlestar Galactica (recent one, not the 70s one), Rome, Absolutely Fabulous, Curb Your Enthusiasm, the Office (UK only)/Extras (love Gervais), Twin Peaks, Star Trek: The Next Generation/Voyager, and Xena (!).
To sum up, if it has aliens, vampires, werewolves, or any sci-fi element, it’s probably for me! I’m not generally interested in true-life series (hospital/legal/cop drama). I’m looking for escapism in my entertainment.
Something you’re afraid of
I can rattle off a number of superficial fears (snakes, the dark, heights), but my true fear is serious illness or the death of my child or spouse. Lately I’ve had a lot of anxiety about earthquakes (gee, I wonder why…). I imagine where I might go in the house at any given time to be safe (with baby, of course) should an earthquake happen. I imagine being trapped with baby, or worse, baby being trapped alone after an earthquake. I hate living on the first floor as I imagine the building collapsing on us. Now, I’ve always been afraid of quakes, but now that baby is here, it’s intensified.
I also cannot take hearing about child abuse or the death of a child, especially the murder of a child. Yes, these incidents have always been horrific, but I find myself imagining my child in the situation and it just haunts me. Sometimes I wonder if I still have a touch of the PPD as these thoughts can stay with me for a long time. Morbid much?
A picture of your friends
I don’t have a pic of all my friends together, but here are pics of our closest pals.
R and L
S and M (and me!)