>DW and I have started doing more in-depth talking about how/when to start addressing the donor issue with baby boy. We agreed long ago that we want to talk about it early and often so that it isn’t some big secret that comes out at some point. We want the baby to have always just known he has two loving mamas who gratefully used an anonymous donor. Question is, is there such a thing as too much information? Like originally we talked about not sharing much info or pictures of the donor until baby boy was a little older, but talking about the donor basically from day one. Now we are wondering if that, too, creates a sense of mystery or wonder about the donor.
We are considering making a donor page in our pregnancy book or in the baby book that includes the donor photos. Is that weird? I just can’t decide, but I know I don’t want there to be any secrecy around it. While I know adoption is a different thing, all the adopted kids I’ve known that had issues were those who weren’t told until they were older that they were adopted. The well-adjusted ones just always knew they were adopted and had all the info they needed from as far back as they could remember.
How do you plan to handle donor information with your child/ren?